REASONS WHY I DON'T LIKE BEING A MILITARY SPOUSE | Navy Wife 5

Because you're not always gonna get along with them. That is okay but I do suggest. You guys to choose your friends wisely not just. Because they're a military wife means. That they are going to be your friend automatically no. It doesn't work like.

That trust me know. Everybody has a different personality and I am sure you're gonna find amazing friends. That you know you're gonna be friends with them throughout the whole military life and even after. That don't trust. Anybody I've learned. This from experience focus on yourself um. I could be talking about a man. You can be talking to like oh they're military wives and you can be amazing you can like find friends like. This well for some of us that's really hard to find for take your time take your time choosing friends actually. I have met amazing military wives and I love them to death just. Because they're military wife doesn't mean.

That that they can relate to everything about you yes. They relate to these aspects of you being a military wife but other. That they're regular people. They have their own issues your own problems. You have your own issues in your own problems sometimes just finding friends outsides I've already been military wives it's gonna be better that's just. What do I know right so those are just. Some reasons why I don't like being a military wife. I don't like to say.

That I hate being a military wife but it's just annoying it can get annoying sometimes because of those reasons. That I mentioned. I love my life. I love my husband and I'm super grateful for everything that I have in my life so by no means. I complaining about you know. Anything about being a military wife but I hope. This is just an informative video. That from this video you're able to take. Some pointers and you know. Some advice.

That is it for this video. I really really really hope. You guys enjoyed watching this video yeah don't forget to like my video subscribe share. This video to anyone who is a military spouse and would be happy to hear. Me complain about it I'm just kidding hear. Me share this reason. You so much for joining me today and I will be seeing you guys in my next video don't believe. Anything you see or read in the on the Internet don't let.

Anyone bring you down don't let. Anyone you know tell. You should live your life. Me you you basically want to take the good advice. You are in charge of your life personal life in general make your own circle make your own circle of friends focus on you I just want to keep. It real with.

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I can get some you know income but it's not as much as Mike brings an or it's not. Even like it doesn't. Even compare to the amount of money. I would be getting if. I would have my own job for planning on buying a house soon thing money for that we're. Both going back to schools obviously the military doesn't pay for my whole like schools our goal. This year is to pay our debt so. We don't really have a lot pay.

All our credit cards. Both of them are almost done with. Me going to school and all. That that's gonna add. More debt so no money does not grow on trees in the military. How to know why you heard. That definitely not. You have to be very very very smart with your money okay so. Another reason is deployment and under ways Mike hasn't been on deployment. Yet he's been on it underway right after. He graduated east well so for me. That wasn't as hard. Because I was used to being gone through out like bootcamp and a school and right after a school with under way so for me I was used to that so. It wasn't as hard for me but if.

He were to go on a deployment or underway. It would be a different story. I would be devastated. We honestly try to avoid talking about deployment recently actually. We decided to stop talking about deployments. You know when they're coming up. We are just not allowed in a household to speak about deployment. I would be the one to bring it up and he got kind of lettuce tired with the idea. That one day. He will be going on deployment and I'm glad.

That we came to an agreement not to talk about it nice. Because we're not leaving our lives around deployment for now but if your husband is on a deployment right now. I suggest you guys. You know talking to somebody who is also going through. What you're going through. We don't know what to tell. Because I've never been through. That and I don't. Even want to think about it right now so. You don't hate. I talk about this reason the last reason is finding military wives.

That can relate to you there is different military wives stereotypes but that I mean there's obviously different people and you're not always gonna get along with. Everybody you go to school. You have you know. You select your friends and that's the kind of group you're gonna hang out with throughout the whole year. You know what I mean kind of the same. When you're a military wife.

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All my thoughts is one way to cope with anxiety the other way is when. I start having like a panic attack or something like. That I love to eat. Something cold. I know it's been so weird I'm not sure about you. I have a panic attack. I start sweating and just heating up my husband actually introduced. Me to this one time. I was having a panic attack and he put like ice on my back and I was like well. This feels so much better and I started like coming back so ever since then. I always go after ice cream or anything that's gonna come.

Me down another way. That I cope with anxiety will be talking to my family and friends. Some of you don't like to talk to anybody but I do suggest. You guys reach out to somebody. Whenever you say. That you don't. You can't express your feelings to somebody else that's your brain talking like that's your depression and your anxiety telling you. That you should be talking about it but I do suggest. You guys talking to somebody. Because that will make. You feel better okay so enough talking about anxiety and all.

That like I will make a video. You know spending more about anxiety and depression have a cope with. It another way. I cope with loneliness. Because because that's my reason coping with loneliness it's same busy so like. I said I'm literally plan your day like by the hour. That way you are not. You know doing a thing throughout the whole day. You know what I'm saying make sense comment below. You deal with loneliness.

Because I'm always learning and I like to switch up my days so come below. What you do and how. You deal with loneliness. That way I can apply. That to my days. All help each other reason number four. How expensive visiting your family is flights are super super expensive. You just have to plan. It out in the military there's no way. You can plan. Anything out your significant other has to request. This off sometimes those days are not.

Even guaranteed it's insane. Because they do have to go. They have to go through like the chain of command plans don't exist in the military. It ain't just happens spontaneously simultaneous trips are expensive so visiting family is super expensive and it makes. Me so sad because we're really far from them like we're not. Even close we're across the country we're trying to save money for a house we're trying to save money to pay our debts miss our families a lot and it just sucks. That we're so far away from them I guess being a military family.

You know that's one of them that's one of the things. We have to deal with missing your family and coping with. All of that so my reason number five is people assume. We grow money on trees. I am NOT working right now for a personal reason and uh. It just sucks. Because mike is the only. One making the money right now. I do try to you know sell things online and do things online so. 

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He has to be up like at 5:00 in the morning sometimes earlier. That so okay moving on to the second reason. When my husband doesn't have signal. I am sure some of you know that my husband's on the ship. They lose signal oh wow and I mean it's it's it's not just. That they do signal. They are also busy throughout the whole day. They just don't have time to you know text or whatever Mike is always doing something he's always on the move like.

You guys know him personally. You know how hard. He works I don't expect the text from him on a good day. He sends me like about five texts and you know just taking me updated. That he's fine but whenever. He doesn't reply to me or whenever. I have no signal like my calls are not going through my texts are. Now going through that's when. I start freaking out. I blow up his phone. I don't know. It just makes. Me feel paranoid. You know hopeless. Because I can't really do. Anything about it that's that for me that's a huge reason.

I literally need to know that he's fine. Now let's move on to the more serious reasons my third reason is coping with loneliness. This is a more sensitive topic. Because I am sure. We all go through. If you're a military wife. You know fiance your significant other you're going through. This and also your significant other that's in the military is going through. This as well. I will be making a video focusing on loneliness for this video for the sake of this video. I decided to add. It since it's a very huge reason for me loneliness is not. Something that we can get rid of for me. When my husband has a duty Dame. He has establish. It the whole day sometimes.

We don't have signal we're not able to communicate so throughout the whole day we're not really we're not really talking we're not really communicating he's not really giving me updates. You know he has like work to do. You know all these things. I have to keep myself busy a typical day. That he has Duty. I like to write down. You know the groceries. I like to clean the house like deep deep deep clean the house. I like to you know go on a walk or go shopping just things like. That literally planning your day ahead will be a huge help for you I have no kids so. I do Mike he's over there playing around with. This toys have. You suffered from anxiety and depression and all. That you know what I mean by. You hear yourself talking so.

I constantly hear my brain just saying like. All this things and it's really scary sometimes. You suffer from anxiety a lot and panic attacks especially at night. When my brain starts start talking I like. I just freeze and I'm just like. What the heck so. I cope with anxiety. I like to write just write down. You know any ideas or anything that's going on through my head. All the voices. That I'm hearing in my brain I'm like taking it no and just writing it here instead of just thinking too much about that way. I don't come drown is that a correct term to say I'm not sure. How to explain a I feel like. Some of you who are dealing with anxiety know what I'm talking about writing down.

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You are a new military wife or if your gonna be a military wife honestly. It is not that bad don't take. These reasons and be like holy cow. I don't be a military wife anymore no it's a beautiful experience it's definitely. Something new so experience. That you know live your life and just go with. It and I promise. This reasons are probably gonna be to some of you hi guys welcome back. You are new to my channel hello my name is melody yeah thank you so much for joining me today and us promise I'm bringing you guys. This video I don't want to sound like. I am ungrateful or anything like. That and I didn't want to make.

It for the reason but I do understand. That it is sometimes nice to hear. You know this reason especially. When you're going through. This so I decided to just pick up the wrist the reasons. That stand out for me being a military wife so. It together and now. I am going to share. It with you guys but before. I move on I do want to ask. You guys to subscribe to my channel we're almost at 700 subscribers and I am so thankful for everyone who takes their time to subscribe and watch my videos so okay so know they'll be got.

That out of the way let's get right into. It I did took my time like. I said and wrote. Everything down. Because I didn't want to miss. Anything I wanted. This video to be as like informative as possible so number. One my first reason is waking up early for some of you are probably like really valaria. You couldn't pick the different reason waking up early. I could do that well not. Me I am NOT a morning person. It used to be a morning person but not anymore the reason why I wake up early is because. We only have. One vehicle. In future I will change my company and I think web site https://salesjobsearches.com/ can help me with a big problem - my resume.

We don't have a car. I like to take them in the morning to work. That way I have the car just in case and you just like go get groceries. You know shopping or emergency. Anything like. That I like to keep the car with. Me we do have a motorcycle and we're gonna be shipping it soon. That way I don't have to take him to work. He can take the motorcycle to work. I can keep the car here and it's easier for everybody. You bring the motorcycle.

I am still going to continue to wake up early. Because I have to make a breakfast in the morning I jus don't see him leave. Though I'm you know we're gonna have two vehicles I'm still gonna wake up early so. I don't think that's gonna change also. Whenever I get a job I'm still gonna wake up early for that so I'm gonna wake up early for the rest of my life.